Staying sober in early recovery is a powerful act of self-respect, but when alcohol shows up at social events, it can feel like your progress is being tested. Whether it’s a wedding, work party, or family celebration, moments like these can bring up anxiety, cravings, or confusion about how to navigate them safely.
Below, Dr. Jason Powers shares three essential strategies for staying sober at social events, plus a bonus truth to carry with you when triggers arise.
3 Key Strategies to Protect Your Recovery
Have a Good Reason to Be There
Before accepting any invitation, take a moment to reflect on whether the event truly aligns with your values and recovery goals.
Ask yourself: “Do I Need to Be There?”
Are you going because the occasion matters to you, or because you feel guilty saying no? Will you feel good about your decision afterward? Is this an event you can attend without compromising your peace?
If the answer to these questions is yes, and you feel equipped to handle it, then it may be worth attending. When you show up with a clear and intentional purpose, you’re much more likely to stay rooted in your recovery, make mindful choices, and leave the event feeling proud of how you honored your sobriety.
Have an Exit Strategy
One of the most important tools in recovery is knowing that you always have a choice. Agency is a powerful tool and it’s important to remember that you never need to stay anywhere that feels unsafe, triggering, or emotionally draining. That means arranging your own transportation whenever possible so you don’t have to rely on others. If you’re not driving, make sure your Uber or Lyft app is downloaded and working before the event ever starts.
It’s also smart to let a trusted friend or support person know where you’ll be, and that you may leave early. Having a solid exit strategy gives you the confidence to go into social settings without feeling trapped. You’re in control, and that’s a vital part of staying sober.
Have a Lifeline Support
Recovery doesn’t happen in isolation. At Positive Recovery, we know that addiction thrives in isolation but the key to recovery is connection. Before you head to any event where alcohol might be served, reach out to someone who supports your sobriety. Let them know what you’re doing, and ask if you can check in before or after. It may also be wise to let someone know where you are going to ensure an extra step of safety.
Sometimes, just knowing that someone is available to talk can ease anxiety and offer a sense of accountability. This person might be your sponsor, a sober friend, a family member, a therapist, or a member of your treatment team. At Positive Recovery Centers, we encourage clients to build their personal “support toolkit” for situations just like this. Staying sober becomes much easier when you remember that you’re never alone.
Finding your people those who genuinely support your recovery and respect your boundaries — creates a safety net that empowers you to face challenges with confidence and resilience.
Support from Positive Recovery Centers
At Positive Recovery Centers, we believe recovery is meant to empower your life, not keep you in a cave. Sobriety helps us embrace life and actively engage with those around us. That’s why we focus on practical, real-world recovery skills that help our clients not only maintain sobriety but also thrive in their personal and social lives in long-term recovery. This includes preparing for social events, setting healthy boundaries, building confidence, and reframing high-risk situations into opportunities for growth.
Whether you need clinical support, recovery coaching, or simply someone to walk beside you as you face new challenges, we’re here. Our programs are rooted in evidence-based practices and Positive Psychology, and we’re committed to helping you protect your recovery every step of the way.
To take the next step, reach out to us today or find a Positive Recovery location near you. We’re ready to help you stay grounded, connected, and strong, no matter what life brings.
Bonus Tip: Triggers Aren’t Commandments
One of the most important things to remember in recovery is this: just because something triggers you doesn’t mean you have to obey it. Triggers are normal. You might feel cravings, irritation, or emotional discomfort when you see others drinking or when alcohol is part of the social atmosphere. That’s okay.
The key is to recognize that a trigger is just a moment, not a mandate. You have the power to pause, breathe, and choose differently. Step outside, call your lifeline, or simply remove yourself from the situation.
Staying sober at social events is an act of courage and clarity. It doesn’t mean you’re fragile. It means you’re committed to a higher standard of living, one that prioritizes your well-being, clarity, and future. You’ve already proven your strength by starting your recovery journey. Now, with a little planning, support, and self-awareness, you can protect it and live a life full of meaning and purpose.